Ruth Offen / People of Tango. Photographed at Bar Dorrego, San Telmo, Buenos Aires, 2019.
As a woman who runs her own world, I’ve had to learn how to let go in tango. I was blessed with a good mind and an even faster tongue but I’m better at holding my punches now.
Most of the time, that is! I’ve had two husbands. I’m done with that. Now it’s all about me taking care of myself. I like to eat life – not be eaten by it. Some men just want me to rub my tits on them and I’ve gotten okay with that; I guess I enjoy it as much as they do. But others are only interested in steps and they want me to move like a blender for them. I am definitely not okay with that.
There’s got to be something more. I need to feel something. I’m working on being a good solid tango dancer. I want my embrace to be really delicious so men will want to dance with me. I just want to dance tango like I live my life. Now it’s all about me making myself happy. Before you can dance tango you have to love yourself.
Tango helped me get in touch with my feminine side, to not be in control all the time as I have had to be with my business. I’m used to running my own world – but I’m experimenting with letting go. I love to dress up and take the time to be beautiful. I’ve jumped on the tango bandwagon but I’d have to say that for the moment I’m still a sceptic.”